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Baby Bump: 37 Weeks!

April 16th, 2014 · 3 Comments

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The other night, as I was getting in bed, I was complaining about some little annoying pregnancy-related issue — the fact that I can’t take full breaths anymore, or my fleeting but excruciating back pain, or one of the other many symptoms that have made me a little bit whiny for the last few weeks.

And Chad looked over at me and goes: “You know… you won’t be pregnant forever, and then you’ll have the rest of your life to not feel like this.  Why not enjoy the last few days of this pregnancy while you can?”

I kind of looked at him, dumbstruck.  Because, fair enough: During all the wonderful moments of the last nine months, I’ve talked a lot about how grateful I am for this experience.  Like almost everyone I know, I’ve always been nervous about whether I’d be able to have children, and I can barely describe the incredible joy and relief I felt when I got that positive pregnancy test. 

But as the months went by… I started taking it for granted.  I started focusing more on “when he gets here” and less on “right now.” 

Some of that is smart — there comes a point in pregnancy where you can stop learning about all the Pregnancy Rules (whether a sip of wine is ok, whether you can eat cheese or spinach or take this or that type of medicine) and start learning about How To Take Care Of A Baby.  But as my focus moved away from pregnancy and toward the actual baby, I started getting more and more frustrated with how much longer I had to be pregnant before getting the baby.

Which has basically been the last month.  I started saying “any day now” at about 37 weeks, when these photos were taken.  Now it’s almost two weeks later, and “any day now” has turned into “NOW, JUST NOW, OK?”

But Chad makes a good point.  I don’t know if I have hours left to be pregnant, or days, or weeks… but I do know that I’m incredibly lucky to have gotten this far, that I’m grateful for that (even when I forget to acknowledge it), and that despite the heartburn and the insomnia and the crazy food rules, there will come a day when I miss these last few days of our pre-baby life. 

So, for however long it lasts, I’m going to try to enjoy it.

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How far along? 37 Weeks

Total weight gain/loss: 26 pounds

Maternity clothes? Jeans and leggings and some dresses.

Stretch marks? No! 

Symptoms: Back pain, insomnia, heartburn — those are the big ones.  Oh, and I literally pee every 20 minutes.

Sleep: I get up to pee probably 10 times every night.  Sigh!

Best moment this week: Starting to feel contractions! 

Worst moment of the week: Feeling like every week is just endless.  The last month of pregnancy feels like it takes a year!

Have you told family and friends: Yes!

Miss Anything? Being skinny. :-)

Movement: Still quite a bit, but it’s funny how easily I tune it out now!

Food cravings: Cake! Doh.

Anything making you queasy or sick: Not eating — when my stomach is empty, it tends to bring on some nausea. 

Have you started to show yet: I am huge!

Labor Signs: I have a few contractions most nights, but they’re not regular or frequent, so nothing to indicate real labor yet. 

Belly Button in or out? I think it’s officially out at this point!

Wedding rings on or off? On

Happy or Moody most of the time: A little of both…

Looking forward to: Getting to see this little baby who’s been kicking me in the ribs for the last 30 weeks or so!

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Baby Bump: 36 Weeks!

April 10th, 2014 · 4 Comments

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It’s no secret that for the past few weeks, I’ve been extremely nervous about our upcoming new addition.  Some of it was hormones, some of it was first time mom jitters, and some of it was probably just me being nervous for a huge life change right around the corner. 

But, for whatever reason, it seems to have lifted this week!  I know this baby is going to be a ton of work, and I know the next few weeks and months are going to be incredibly draining, but now when I think about the baby coming…

I am Just.  So.  Excited.

There’s still a little bit of time left — I’m behind on these updates, so as I write this 36-week post, I’m actually almost 38 weeks pregnant!  Which means the baby could come any day now.

And a week or two ago, that fact would have sent me into a mild panic.  But now?

His room is ready.  We have diapers, a bassinet, a zillion toys and soft, comfy places for him to nap.  Our insurance-covered breast pump is arriving tomorrow (FYI for other soon-to-be moms: the new health care law has mandated that health insurance companies cover breast pumps in most plans, so check your benefits!), and tonight we’re heading to the parenting class offered by our hospital. 

I don’t think having a child is something that you’re ever truly ready for. 

But I feel about as ready as I’ll ever be. 

So bring it on, baby.  I’m finally ready for you.

Last but not least, my belly has gotten so much bigger in the past few weeks, I thought it would be fun to compare my photos from six weeks ago to today’s!  Here’s a month and a half difference in the third trimester:

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How far along? 36 Weeks

Total weight gain/loss: 24 pounds

Maternity clothes? There’s not much left that fits me anymore!  Maternity jeans and leggings and some sweater/tank tops with lots of stretch.

Stretch marks? Still no! 

Symptoms: I’ve started getting a lot of Braxton Hicks contractions, plus back pain and all my prior symptoms (heartburn, insomnia, etc.).  The last few weeks are brutal!

Sleep: Pretty awful, but I know I’ll be grateful for these nights in a few weeks.

Best moment this week: Just generally feeling ready and excited for this baby to arrive.

Worst moment of the week: I got nervous that the baby was moving less, and when I asked my doctor about it, she hooked me up to a fetal monitor to see if the baby was doing ok.  Weirdly, I was more nervous while she was checking it out than I had been before I asked!  Thankfully, everything was fine.

Have you told family and friends: Yes!

Miss Anything? Champagne and my clothes.  When this baby is an outside baby…

Movement: It feels like less, but he’s still moving a lot.

Food cravings: Starbucks cake pops.  Every.  Single.  Day.  I figure I have to make the most of my last few weeks!

Anything making you queasy or sick: I’m definitely getting queasier as the tail end of this pregnancy gets further along.  Weird!

Have you started to show yet: Definitely.

Labor Signs: On Friday, the doctor said no progress at all.  So probably he’s staying put for a while.

Belly Button in or out? Mostly in, but half of it is sort of sticking out weirdly.

Wedding rings on or off? On

Happy or Moody most of the time: Happy!

Looking forward to: Labor!  Ha ha, just kidding…  Labor being over!

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Baby Bump: 35 Weeks!

April 2nd, 2014 · 7 Comments

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It’s funny — at the beginning of this pregnancy, I spent most of my time worrying about all the little items on my to-do list for before the baby arrived.  (My biggest panic-inducing moment revolved around a ceiling fan, so it couldn’t have been that bad.) But somehow, the thought about what we’d do after the baby arrived didn’t really flicker onto my radar.

But this trimester: It’s like someone just told me that we are going to have a baby, and not only am I completely unprepared, but this little guy is going to arrive in, like, approximately four minutes. 

I keep asking our friends with newborns, “they tell you a lot at the hospital, right?  About how to take care of a baby?”

And they kind of look at me like, awww, it’s cute that you think that

Because, from what I gather: nobody tells you anything.

For a little creature whose life seems to revolve around three or four basic needs, it’s astounding that the first few weeks of parenthood seem to be characterized by complete panic in every single person I talk to.

And in the last few weeks it finally hit me that probably… mine will be too. 

Because no matter how many books or websites I read or friends I email with a zillion questions, there will come a moment at 4 a.m. in my immediate future where this sweet little baby is crying inconsolably and I have no idea how to make him stop. 

And here’s my hope, for that moment, which I can see coming a mile away and still do nothing to prevent:

I hope that in that moment, as awful as it feels, I can remember that this is normal.  That it doesn’t mean I’m failing as a mom or doing a terrible job.  That every terrific mom I know has been in this exact same situation — my own terrific mom included — and that no matter how hard they’ve tried, there will still be moments like this. 

And I hope that thought will give me a little bit of comfort, and reassure me that trying my best is enough, even when it feels like it’s not. 

It’s advice that I give to others all the time, but it’s so hard to apply to yourself.  Sure, I can tell a friend that her mistake is no big deal, that her child is well-loved and cared for, but when I make that same mistake?

No cutting any slack, I’m going straight to Worst Mom Ever.

I put a lot of pressure on myself — we all do.  But the worst time to be draconian with that pressure is when you’re entering a new, terrifying adventure for which everyone feels completely unprepared, and everyone makes mistakes as they go. 

So, six or seven weeks from now, at 4 o’clock in the morning, I hope to be able to look back on this post, and give myself the advice that I would so freely give to anyone else.

You are doing your best.  And you are probably doing just fine.

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How far along? 35 Weeks (I’m two weeks behind in these posts, so I’m actually 37 weeks as I write this!)

Total weight gain/loss: 23 pounds

Maternity clothes? Pants exclusively.  Still working in my non-maternity tops and sweaters.

Stretch marks? Still no!  Sometimes I wake up in the middle of the night and use a double does of belly oil if I’m feeling itchy.  Fingers crossed!

Symptoms: This is new: I can’t sit still for more than 45 minutes or so without being tremendously uncomfortable.  I’ve started getting up for frequent breaks throughout the day, and generally trying to walk around as much as I can, and it seems to be helping.

Sleep: Not great, in that I get up a bunch of times during the night.  That being said, my insomnia has really been in major remission since I’ve been pregnant, which is wonderful.  I’m wondering if it will continue after the baby arrives…

Best moment this week: Finishing the nursery! 

Worst moment of the week: I think in some ways the waiting is the worst part — knowing that there’s this impending change on the horizon and just sitting here waiting for it to hit.

Have you told family and friends: Yes!

Miss Anything? Being comfortable!

Movement: Less as the weeks go on, but still some.

Food cravings: Cupcakes, raspberries, cheese.  Roughly in that order.

Anything making you queasy or sick: UGH.  I skipped breakfast one morning this week and promptly dry-heaved into our sink.  I haven’t felt this queasy since week 6!

Have you started to show yet: Definitely.

Labor Signs: I wonder constantly if every pain is a contraction…

Belly Button in or out? Mostly in — it’s a little deformed at this point!

Wedding rings on or off? On

Happy or Moody most of the time: Mostly happy!

Looking forward to: The wait being over!

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