Entries Tagged as 'personal'

the shape of things to come…

December 27th, 2015 · 33 Comments


What a year this one has been.  I honestly cannot believe it’s December already.  As this year draws to a close, I’ve found myself thinking a lot about this blog, its place in my life, and what blogging means to me. 

This blog has been a huge part of my life for almost a decade.  Over the life of this site, Sugarlaws has received 9.8 million pageviews.  It will hit ten million in a few weeks.  I can hardly wrap my mind around that number.  To the millions of readers who have helped this blog grow: Thank you.  Thank you, thank you, thank you.  I could say it ten million times, and it wouldn’t be enough.  It has never escaped me for one minute that blogging is a privilege; one that my readers give me every day. 

But lately, my focus hasn’t been on this website.  It took me a while to put my finger on the problem, but when I really thought about it, it was right in front of me. 

In the eight years that I’ve run this blog, it’s been many things.  For the first two years, it was a food blog, detailing how I learned to cook in my first years out of school.  In 2009, I added fashion posts to this site, and suddenly found myself invited to New York Fashion Week, meeting celebrities, doing television appearances, and opening my mailbox almost every day to find new clothes, makeup, and other products.  It went from zero to sixty so quickly that I could barely keep up. 

It was a wild ride.  I got an incredible glimpse into the fashion and beauty industry: an insider’s view.  In the space of a few years, I went from gazing at fashion magazines to watching the shows, meeting the designers, and being part of the narrative that forms the industry.  What an incredible opportunity that was.  It was a dream come true. 

But like everything in life, things started to change.  I moved away from New York, had a baby, started my law practice, and watched the world change over the course of a decade.  Fashion is still a passion of mine, but lately, that passion has ebbed.  I love blogging, but I don’t want to be a fashion blogger anymore.  And in realizing that, I’ve found myself at a bit of a crossroads.  If this blog isn’t a fashion blog, then what is it?

I’m not sure I have an answer for that question yet. 

Nearly a year ago, I wrote an essay in response to a reader question about my career.  My advice was simple: Find something challenging that matters.  Since then, I’ve thought about how that applies to other areas of my life, and the one that I kept coming back to was this site.

I want this blog to be my small corner of the internet, where I can share my thoughts and stories and ideas.  That’s all I’ve ever wanted from this blog.  It just took me a while to realize it. 

2016 is going to bring a lot of changes to this website.  I want to strip everything away from this site until I get back to why I started blogging in the first place.  The layout is going to change.  The topics I write about will change.  The name may even change.  And, starting January 1st, I won’t be taking on any more sponsored posts.  No advertising at all.  I don’t want you guys to buy anything.  I just want you to read. 

2016 is the year I slow down.  It’s the year that I think carefully about this blog and what I want it to be. 

I’m proud of this.  I’m excited for it.  And I hope you are too.

I hope you all had a wonderful holiday season.  2016 is almost here.  I, for one, can’t wait.

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love wins.

June 30th, 2015 · 2 Comments


Last week was a pretty incredible one.  As I’m sure you all know by now, the Supreme Court issued a long-awaited ruling affirming the right to marriage on behalf of all United States Citizens, no matter their sexual orientation.

And on Friday morning, minutes after the decision was published, I sat down, read the opinion, and cried tears of joy. 

In our world, progress often comes very slowly and then all at once.  This victory was the result of years of courage and patience on behalf of the litigants, attorneys, and the entire LGBT community.  It was a long time coming.  Too long.  But it came.  And it was so beautiful when my Facebook page was suddenly filled with rainbow profile pictures in celebration. 

There were a number of moving passages in the Supreme Court’s opinion, but my favorite was this: “The nature of injustice is that we may not always see it in our own times.”  We all come of age in a society that we didn’t shape, with influences around us that put a filter on what we view as wrong and right.  And seeing through that filter — realizing that injustice exists and needs to be fixed — is the best thing we can do for each other. 

Our rights as citizens are stronger when they are applied equally.  Marriage, as an institution, is stronger when everyone is given equal access to it.  Our Constitution didn’t create privileges for a select few.  It acknowledged certain human rights, under the law, for everyone. 

This was a legal victory, of course.  And it was a personal victory for the millions of LGBT citizens whose rights were affected by the decision.  But it was also a human rights victory for our country and the world. 

It’s fitting that the weekend that followed celebrated LGBT Pride, because that’s exactly what I felt when I read the Supreme Court’s opinion.  I felt incredibly proud. 

Congratulations to all the newlyweds this week!

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changing times

June 23rd, 2015 · 16 Comments

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He’s so big these days! 

Bear started walking a few months ago, and I know it’s such a cliche to say this, but, seriously, chasing down a toddler is exactly as exhausting as it sounds!  He is such a blast these days — my tiny baby suddenly turned into a little boy!  I still can’t believe how fast it’s gone.  (Another cliche, but still completely true.)

And here’s a new thing… he dances!  One morning, I was singing a song to him and he started dancing — it was actually the most adorable thing I’ve ever seen. 

My little guy can totally groove!

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Happy Mother’s Day

May 11th, 2014 · 2 Comments


Somehow, in all the months of being pregnant, it never occurred to me that I would be such a new mother on Mother’s Day this year.  But as a mom of two weeks, I already feel differently about the holiday — and part of that is so much gratitude for my own wonderful mother.

From when I first got pregnant, I’ve had a new understanding of all the many ways that my parents cared for me.  If I’m lucky, Bear will grow up with the same unconditional love and support that I did, and will be a better, happier, and more loving person because of it. 

My parents came down to Houston the day that the baby was born, and my mom spent the entire weekend in the hospital — literally, 24/7.  As we were checking out, we snapped this picture.

I’m so very grateful for her presence in my life, today and always.  So a big happy Mother’s Day to all the moms out there — especially mine!

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meet Rambo!

November 30th, 2013 · 6 Comments


You may have noticed I’ve been a little quiet lately, and that picture above explains exactly why. 

Last Thursday, we got a puppy!  So I want you guys to all meet Rambo, our ten-week-old Maltipoo! 

I know this probably seems out of the blue (three dogs!  eek!) but we’ve been thinking about getting a puppy since February or March of this year.  We put the plans on hold when I got pregnant, because it just seemed like too much work to add a baby and another dog in the space of nine months. 

But… and this is the sad part… even though Calvin is doing great on his new medicine, the vet told us that he’ll probably only be with us for another year or two.  We’re incredibly grateful for all the time with him that we have, but after getting that news, we had to face the tough reality that Calvin probably won’t get the long, full lifespan that we had hoped he would.  And if we want to have two dogs, then our choices were to 1) get a puppy now, or 2) get a puppy once the baby arrives.

Guess what we chose? 

And I am so, so grateful that we did.  Rambo is an awesome little guy so far — he’s easygoing and incredibly playful, SO smart (it’s been a week and he’s already getting the hang of potty training!) and a perfect new addition to our family.  And with any luck, he’ll be fully trained and through the teething stage by the time the baby arrives — so it should work out perfectly!  It’s taken a lot of work this past week, but I’m so happy to welcome him into our family.

(Calvin and Coco are a little less happy, although they’re definitely warming up to him — they’ve even played together a few times!)

So I apologize in advance for the fact that Rambo will undoubtedly take over my Instagram for the next few weeks.  I can’t seem to help myself — everything he does is so adorable!

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