Baby Bump: 33 Weeks!

March 19th, 2014


A friend recently told me a saying, that I’m feeling acutely this week:

There are two halves of pregnancy.  The first eight months, and the last four weeks.

I so very excited to meet this little baby, but also really physically uncomfortable as the weeks go by.  He’s getting so big now, and sometimes when he spends an hour pushing my internal organs out of place… ouch.

On the other hand, though, I’m grateful that we have these last few weeks to get everything ready!  I’m starting to feel like everything is more or less in place, although it seems like every day I remember some new item for the to-do list.

And then there are things that have been on the to-do list forever, and yet I’ve made no progress.  For instance: Making a Birth Plan.

I know, I know.  I need to get it.  But somehow every time I start to think it, I just get totally overwhelmed. 

See, there are SO MANY OPTIONS.  In my head, pretty much my only expectation is to get the baby out safely.  But when I sit down to come up with a birth plan, all the examples I find are, like, ten pages long and include a whole bunch of stuff that I’ve never even thought about.  Like, what kind of fetal monitoring do I want?  (It’s not just ‘some’ or ‘none,’ it’s a bunch of different types, which all need to be extensively researched, obviously.) Do I want membrane stripping?  Pitocin?  Prostaglandin gel? 

Every time I try to tackle it, I spend fifteen panic-stricken minutes googling what all these things are… and then promptly give up.  And put the birth plan off for another day. 

Except… now we are getting to the point where I could potentially go into labor this week, and still… no birth plan.

Am I being terrible?  Sometimes I worry that putting these things off is somehow a sign that I’m not ready to be a parent — like, a good mom would have researched membrane stripping by now.  I know that’s crazy, and that I’m going to be just as good a mom as the girl with the 20-page-single-spaced birth plan. 

But on the other hand, I don’t want to put it off so long that I’m frantically googling “what is prostaglandin gel” while there is a baby trying to make its way out of my body.

On the other hand… I’m pretty sure that people gave birth for thousands of years without elaborate birth plans.  And when I hear stories about labor from friend or family, the most common thread seems to be, “nothing went the way I expected it to.” 

So I’m trying to be flexible about the whole thing.  I know that I’ve done enough research to have a rough idea of what I want and don’t want, and I have a LOT of trust my doctor and our hospital.  My type-A personality feels guilty about not checking off all the boxes, but with this one — does it really matter?

I’d love advice on this — did you do a birth plan?  Did you feel like it really helped? 


How far along? 33 Weeks

Total weight gain/loss: 22 pounds

Maternity clothes? Still just pants really! 

Stretch marks? Still no!  I’m still using Earth Mama Angel Baby stretch mark oil about 3 times a week, and so far it seems to have worked!

Symptoms: All the symptoms.  My body is just generally pretty uncomfortable these days.

Sleep: Off and on.  I’m still waking up multiple times every night, but this week I’d say was generally better, sleep-wise.

Best moment this week: This is a fun and not baby-related one — Marie Claire came to Houston to do a street-style feature, and I got to shoot with them on Saturday morning!  I’ll do a post on my outfit soon, but it was a blast!

Worst moment of the week: There wasn’t one that I can think of.

Have you told family and friends: Yes!

Miss Anything? My balance!

Movement: Lots!

Food cravings: Mangoes, blackberries, Twizzlers, oreo cookie dough.

Anything making you queasy or sick: Nope!

Have you started to show yet: I am huge!

Labor Signs: I get worried about various pains and cramps, but so far they’ve all passed.

Belly Button in or out? In!

Wedding rings on or off? On

Happy or Moody most of the time: Happy!

Looking forward to: Finishing everything up and moving on to this next stage of our lives!

Tags: baby

13 responses so far ↓

  • 1 Laura // Mar 19, 2014 at 10:45 am

    Being a type A personality…. I too felt guilty about the whole birth plan! But like you said I’m so glad I didn’t end up doing one…. Things were very different and well the Mum guilt thing was in full force when things went very very different than expected! But you know what I have 3 beyond beautiful babies that like you said no matter how they or here…. They got here safely with the help of very skilled doctors who knew what they were doing 🙂 Good luck! And enjoy those last few days that you have…. While they seem like the most miserable ever…. I look back on those last 3 weeks of waiting for my first daughter, and there is something so sweet and magical about them 🙂

  • 2 Minara El-Rahman // Mar 19, 2014 at 11:29 am

    I had a birth plan and while it was helpful, it did not all go according to plan. I will say that you should try at all costs to keep the baby with you (no cleaning, no cutting the cord) until after you have skin on skin contact and you can breastfeed (if you plan to breast feed). That helps your colostrum kick in and you can get the baby to latch more easily. Good luck Katy!

  • 3 Jen // Mar 19, 2014 at 11:45 am

    I did not have a birth plan.  I am a total planner, and OCD about most things, but I trusted my doctor, and my only goal was to get the baby out safely.  I didn’t have strong opinions about medications, methods, etc.  I had a few minor complications during labor, and the doctors and nurses asked my approval for everything they did.  And I had a healthy, perfect baby girl.  I don’t feel like a birth plan would have helped at all.  I have three friends who recently had very strict birth plans, and they all went flying out the window once labor started.  Good luck!!

  • 4 Jennifer // Mar 19, 2014 at 12:59 pm

    From my experience as an RN, it’s more important to know what you want in your head as opposed to having it written down.  None of your nurses or doctors are going to sit down with your birth plan and read it.  When they want to do something, they will ask you and you will tell them if you want to do it or not.  That’s really it.  If it’s easier for your husband to have something written down to reference, by all means write it, but really, it’s more about trusting yourself to know that if you say something, that’s what you mean.  So if they tell you that they want to rupture your membranes and you don’t want that, you should trust yourself enough to know that when you say no, that’s what you mean.  Or trust your doctors enough that if they say they want to do something, you know that they really mean that you or the baby needs it.

    Remember that your goal is always a healthy baby, so if the doctors are pushing hard for something, it’s usually to make sure that everything goes del for you and your baby boy.

  • 5 Stacy Dill // Mar 19, 2014 at 1:17 pm

    Plans often go astray once labor commences or even in the days before of a check-up reveals a problem and the baby must be delivered ASAP. O few goals might be in order: my advice would be to avoid being induced if at all possible ( not always possible) because it can make the labor more difficult. Another goal might be to avoid anesthesia and only have a local if necessary but again reserve the right to change your mind. Trust your doctor and your knowledge from reading-up so that you and your husband and family can make the right decisions as they come up. Bring: comfy house slippers and two or three pairs of warm socks, a blanket and snack food for afterward. You might be starving after and there might be nothing available because it is 2 a.m. and your husband is too exhausted/distracted to be trusted to head out to the all-night fast-food place ( and yuck!). I come from a Greco-Italian background, so… the nurses were amused by the large family in attendance in the room and waiting room as applicable AND my aunt bringing over a LARGE meal ( hot and everything) for all to enjoy-except me…for hours! Also… what Jennifer said. Another thing…since this is a first baby, don’t be surprised if you are up to two weeks late!

  • 6 Sunski // Mar 19, 2014 at 1:32 pm

    I’m usually a planner extraordinaire (like when I was pregnant, I was researching kindergartens for the baby), but my only birth plan was “I want an epidural.”  (Oh the horror of admitting that I didn’t want a “natural” child birth).  Then my labor progressed too fast to get an epidural.  So much for plans . . . . 

    Listen to the RN commenting above – have an idea of what you want, make sure you talk about that with your husband, and trust your medical professionals.

  • 7 esther @ cuteheads // Mar 19, 2014 at 2:53 pm

    I had a birth plan, and ended up doing literally everything the opposite of what it entailed. We never even looked at it. If you trust your doctor & have a bit of an education about what they might offer (pitocin, magnesium, extra fluid, sugar water/pacifier for baby, immediate skin-t0-skin, delayed cord clamping, etc), you’ll be fine!

  • 8 Kirsten // Mar 19, 2014 at 3:57 pm

    I didnt have a birth plan, just trusted what the doctors said, and everything went just fine! Its hard to plan when you dont know what complications you will come accross, anyways.

  • 9 Kate // Mar 19, 2014 at 9:38 pm

    For my second baby, I had a birth plan. I didn’t hand it over to my docs, but rather made my husband and mother read it. I agree with the RN who commented- know what you want, and let your “team” know as well. If looking everything up seems overwhelming, then just focus on things you don’t want. Sometimes that’s easier. For instance, many people now prefer to tear rather than have an episiotomy. Anything that’s super important to you either way, just make a mental note. But no, you don’t have to know everything to have a good experience…especially if your end goal is simply “I want to safely deliver my baby”. Good luck!

  • 10 Jessica // Mar 20, 2014 at 2:25 am

    Wow, you looks soooo beautiful. Look forward to the baby’s birth.

  • 11 Irene // Mar 21, 2014 at 3:41 am

    Stop reading and just enjoy live! Trust the people in hospital when time comes, they do this every day!

    For my first child, I went to hospital with a full bag-pack of stuff : I used nothing of it. I had read 25 books and 1000 web-pages about everything pregnancy related.
    I’m due in 7 days for the second and I haven’t even packed a bag to go to hospital (which could happen any moment now) and have read NOTHING at all.  And in the end, birth will be the same: whatever is needed so that the baby and I are healthy afterwards 🙂

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